(Not So) Common Courtesy

What has happened to common courtesy?  Is it dying?

More common today is selfishness and rudeness than common courtesy.  I refuse to give in.  Love God, Love Others.  Put others first.  I am second.

Every waking moment we battle the tension that naturally exists between meeting our own needs and those of others.   Here are a few ways I can value you:

  • Holding the door for someone you don’t know won’t kill you; thanking somebody you don’t know when they hold the door for you won’t, either.
  • Letting the fella in his car into the flow of traffic; thanking the one who let you into the flow of traffic with a wave.
  • A thank you card for someone who blessed you with an action or a gift.
  • Cell phone conversations and texting in public places should wait till you are alone.
  • Look people in the eyes when you greet them and shake their hand, firmly.
  • Be on time — early if you can.  Five minutes early is five minutes late.
  • In meetings, don’t hold conversations at the same time someone else is speaking. Let the person finish his point before giving yours.
  • In meetings, earn the right to speak up.
  • Don’t talk down to coworkers, including subordinates. You may be above them in rank, but as a human being, you’re on a level playing field.
  • Don’t be afraid to share the spotlight in your workplace. Rather than being self-centered, work together with somebody of equal ambition. You don’t always have to be in the front seat—the backseat is cool.
  • At a restaurant, let women order food first, and stand up when a woman leaves the table.
  • Avoid the use of expletives.
  • Always put your napkin in your lap at dinner. Stuffing it in your shirt is grounds for getting slapped.
  • Caveman behavior at the dinner table isn’t good. Use utensils, avoid chewing with your mouth open, and don’t leave a messy plate.
  • When eating out, always tip more than 20 percent. Waiters live off of customers’ kindness. And you don’t want to make other people at your table reach into their pocket to cover your cheapness.
  • Treat older women as if they were your own mother.
  • Always have a woman walk on the inside of the sidewalk and on the side of parked cars in a parking lot, basically using your body as a barrier from harm.

What can you do to put others first?

(Not So) Common Courtesy