Writing is my passion. I have no big dreams that this will one day lead to anything other than what its always been for me – my catharsis. Some are born to CREATE, others to DO, some to BE, but those of us who have a passion to write, have no other choice.
But what does one do when he has gone through the most heart breaking, somewhat public, traumatic event of his life? Write too soon and surely the perception will be that of insensitivity. Give up writing? Or wait ’till the “right time”? Certainly this dilemma has some validity, but the time has come to do what I sense the Holy Spirit is prompting me to do – write…openly, honestly, and humbly.
Divorce isn’t just a single-facetted event but rather one that unfolds and transitions through various phases. While one never completely heals from divorce, each day that passes brings fresh aid. A divorce does not define who I am, but who I am will never be void of a failed 21 year marriage. So when I write about my divorce, I do so for three reasons:
- To give those of you in a marriage or those hoping to one day be married, a peek behind the heart-broken curtain of a child of God who is living the realities of a broken marriage. My heart and hope is that your marriage will be healthy, abundant, and all that God wants it to be. If I can reveal my fatal pitfalls, perhaps you can avoid them.
- And to those going through the process of divorce, I will write to tell you that the King of Kings loves you. There is a tomorrow.
- And lastly, writing brings me healing.
For those wondering, I do not profess to be healed of this pain. Nor do I claim to be an expert on divorce (who would EVER hope to be?). All that I know is that I’m a repentant believer in the Lord Jesus Christ. He has forgiven me of my sin of divorce. My ex wife has forgiven me for not being the husband that God called me to be. And I am working on forgiving myself.
Perhaps there is no truer statement than this: “Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.”
It is from this perspective and my story above that I restart the discipline of writing. It is a new beginning.
…Soli Deo Gloria